On my self-journey that started after my Reiki Training, where I realized my heart chakra was closed, I began doing some research about becoming a better wife. I had read books before about the Christian wife and although they are wonderful and have great lessons – I wanted a reason to do it beyond The Source, The One, God, or whatever. I wanted to do it for ME and I wanted to do it for my DH. So the following is my review of the book before it goes into the sell or donate pile. 
I found this book at Barnes and Noble and decided this would be a good of a start as any. I struggled with the idea of surrendering to my DH, but I soon realized this was the exact reason we were stumbling as a couple. I was trying to control his every move whether it be by asking a question and wanting to hear *my* answer, telling him how to drive, or nagging at him about the chores he has failed to do. I am not his mother, I don’t need to control him. I learned that surrendering was just giving up control (and the awful crabbing that comes with it) to give him more power and lift him up as a person. The more I do that, the more confident he feels, the more he’ll show me attention (or do the chores), and the more intimate our relationship can be.
My favorite chapters were titled Take Care of Yourself First, Admit It When You’re Hurt, and lastly Say Yes to Sex (yes I just said that – she wrote it not me!!) 
I think so many women forget about taking care of themselves first! How much do we do in a day for others? We make breakfast for our families, pack their lunches, do the dishes, make beds, tidy the house, only to realize that we still our in our pjs and dread taking a peek at what our hair must look like in the mirror by this time. When we are well rested, have taken the time to grab a bite to eat or enjoy some morning tea, and maybe enjoyed some time working on our latest hobby or reading our new book ~ we feel refreshed and renewed enough to give more the man of our hearts. We can make a nice supper or have the patience for a conversation and maybe even some alone time in the bedroom.
The other thing I have a hard time dealing with that I really related to in the book was just the simple idea of admitting when I’m hurt. He’ll say something rude or hurtful just to jab at me probably to start a fight, and I’ll blow up. Maybe he wanted a discussion, but I go off and give him a stick of dynamite instead. This book suggests instead of letting him fire me up, I am just to say “Ouch!” and walk away. That lets him know he was mean and he hurt my feelings and there is no other discussion that I want at the time. What a great idea! No fighting! He got his point across and so did I.
I know we’ve all made excuses to get out of doing the deed at least a few times, but how must it feel to be rejected by your spouse? This chapter suggests being available and making time for it because it is the most intimate and private part of your relationship, which can cause great strain on the two of you if it’s neglected. Be creative, take the time to enjoy long kisses and back rubs, and be available to your spouse for that physical connection. Don’t make it a chore though – make it enjoyable for both of you (that’s where the creativity comes in).
I would recommend this book to others especially ones struggling in a relationship or striving to make the one you have even better. I wanted to share about the book, reflect on it, and pass it along because I think it’s a good read.
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