I’m beginning to wonder if the “terrible twos” have begun in our home this past week.
She has began demanding, “Hurry up, Mama!” ”Get up, Mama!” ”Mama, draw now!” There are times when I’ve kindly, and not so kindly (SHAME SHAME), said not right now. But mostly, I am just trying to wrap my head around so many ideas.
She must have heard me demand of her SO many times. ”V, hurry up! Let’s go!” ”V, let’s put your diaper on!” I can only imagine where she learned to demand of others. Now, after looking back on it all – I can see why she gets so furious with the demands.
Because if I hear one more, “Mama do such and such right now!” I might blow a gasket!
Why? Why does her requesting of me make me so angry? Why can I literally feel the anger building? Why if she wants something does it almost put me on the edge… like nails on the chalkboard?
Because who really likes being told what to do?
I don’t. I don’t like people “making” me do something, and I’ll admit sometimes I don’t even like them even suggesting I do something.
So maybe it’s not the “terrible twos!” Maybe we are just at a point where we can both communicate well enough to tell each other what to do, but neither of us wants to hear it and neither of us is communicating in a way that we can both do what we want to do (most of the time).
We just need to learn new scripts!
I’ll be learning more empathy and how to dance with her this week.